Social comparison will more often than not lead you down the path of negativity – feeling of jealousy, envious, covetous and lowering of one’s self-esteem. You may believe it could give you the drive to compete and be better than others, but I can assure you, this path will not bring happiness despite what achievements you may obtain.
In my own experience, I would say that I am naturally a competitive person and I strive to be the best at whatever I do. Prior to discovering the journey of self-realization through meditation, I was unconsciously drawn to compete and compare myself with others and always measure success against the benchmark set by society.
It led me to down a path of constantly feeling stressed and emptiness no matter how much I had achieved. However, when the Universe opened me to the discovery of self through meditation, I started to begin to shift perceptions, thoughts and emotions.
There were so many realizations in the journey of discovering my true self where I soon I realized the natural tendency to compare with others arose because we are ignorant of our true nature, power and capability. To be ignorant is the biggest roadblock to self-realization. Hence, it is vital for us to cultivate the art of meditation, mindfulness and self-contemplation on a regular basis to discover the truth of our
structure as an evolved human being.
Through studying and understanding philosophy, it has helped me pave the way for my own self-discovery and to realize my true purpose in this lifetime. Additionally, through the discovery process, I realized that the best way to improve your life is by competing with reference to your inner self. Your true inner self is a mirror image of The Absolute – ever perfect, ever wise and ever pure. Through cultivating mindfulness, you can measure your thoughts, actions and words against that of your true inner self of the Absolute. If one can indeed do that on a daily basis, I ensure that it will guide you to a successful and happy life. Learn to stop socially comparing yourself with others by first learning how to slow down and learn to live with the flow of life.
This must be first achieved through mindfulness – which can be grasp through the art of meditation. This is because meditation allows us to detach from our daily stress, emotions, thoughts and outer senses that constantly stimulate your mind. When you learn to quiet down and relax, you’d find your natural ability to live and enjoy life. More often than not, when you are at peace, you are naturally led to live a life of higher potentials that will bring forth more success, abundance, happiness and fulfilment.
Part of the article was referenced from chopra.com.